Grief

For many years I worked with individuals that in best case scenarios would pass on with ease. When the individual did pass on families, friends and acquaintances would  allow themselves a week maybe a month to feel the loss. However, if another family member or friend grieved longer than the allotted "week or month"  he/she would be criticize and told hurtful things like "get over it". I can not tell you how often the spouse/son/daughter would come into my office and say "It's been a year, how come I still hurt or feel so sad, I should be over this." My answer was and still is "Grief, does not have a time frame." The key to grief is to allow yourself to fell it when it appears. The more you stuff it, ignore or avoid, the stronger it will become, which will eventually turn it into anger and hate. There is absolutely nothing wrong with shedding tears. It is a necessary release, your body requires this on regular bases (this does include men). The sooner you allow yourself to feel "Grief" the sooner you will heal. I am not saying to wallow in "grief" either, I am saying to acknowledge, release, heal. Repeat process as necessary. My Mother-in-Law passed away 13 years ago February 14. The loss is still there, I miss her terribly, however it doesn't hurt as much now. I put my kitten to sleep yesterday, I am giving myself permission to feel the loss, sadness, and hurt that accompanies this. I will cry randomly for the next few weeks & I will miss him sorely. I will know I have begun healing when I can think of him, acknowledge the hurt and remember the funny things that he did which in turn will replace the hurt with love. When this happens I know my grieving is coming to an end.

As I stated before "Grief does not have a time frame." It is a process, if you do not allow yourself to go through the process it will never end. I recommend not pushing it or stuffing it. Acknowledge it, yes it hurts like hell, this is part of the healing.

Surrender & Trust

Guidance: Retreat, Signs from above & Look Deeper