Greed

What is Greed? This is a conversation my husband and I have been having. He has been reading a book on "Greed" and from the books perspective it is an emotion we all have that tells us "You want more". If you want a better car, education, living condition, or more money you are "greedy".  I can not help but take offense to this. How is it that wanting more for myself or my family makes me "greedy"? The author says it is a disease that we "Americans" suffer from. We are never satisfied, we are in constant pursuit of the "American Dream" rising from the scums to become a millionaire and the only way to accomplish this is through "greed". Again I take offense, most individuals that I know do not want to be millionaires, however they do want to live better and provide for themselves and their families. I honestly don't feel this is being "greedy". For me this is simply a "desire". What is the difference? Desire as I have stated before is a feeling that motivates you to achieve. I will acknowledge that Greed does the same thing. However, the motivating feeling itself is completely different. Greed is dark and heavy. Have you ever meet someone who was "Greedy"? I have, and they are only out for themselves; no one else. Even if they have friends or family. The only reason they are after anything is for themselves ( they don't share). They are egotistical, snappy, and quick to condemn. For me "Greed" is the dark side of  "Desire". You may start off wanting more which can grow into a strong desire of doing and being more to achieve it. Desire feels exciting and new. It becomes "Greed" the minute you decide to sacrifice anyone and anything. You are willing to do harm, illegal, unethical and moral wrong to achieve it.

I will continue to disagree with the author and say I am not "greedy". I won't say that I haven't felt like being "greedy" on occasion, however I chose "desire" instead.

What are your thoughts, are you "greedy?"


Guidance: Manifestation, Spiritual Growth, Idea's & Inspiration

Surrender & Trust

Love

Yesterday everyone celebrated Valentine's day in some shape or form. All claiming it had to do with "Love" my question to you is What is Love? Does it have a definition or is it more of a feeling? I am asked continually what unconditional love is and what is the difference? For me the difference is more about the conditions in which I attached to that love. Love for me is the feeling of warmth, sunshine that spreads through my whole body. I feel it various ways and times from interacting with my family or clients to seeing a rainbow. Unconditional love is extremely powerful and overwhelming it feels like riding on a roller coaster that never ends, it has loops bumps, turns and drops. It also has no limits or expectations none! There is no way for you to withhold it. I feel this for my children, my husband, my mom, close friends and God. There is another type of love which I like to refer to as Divine Love. This feels like a giant ray of sunshine beaming down on me along with the feeling anticipation; something exciting is about to happen. I feel this for everyone and everything. So when I say I love you I truly do. You are a fellow human being, sharing your journey and experiences with me. OK I have rambled on about my definitions of love, I ask again what is yours?

With Love I Surrender & Trust,

Guidance for today is: Marriage, Speak your Truth & Look Deeper

Never to Late

What does age have to do with anything? I hear all the time that I am to old or not old enough. What I would like to know is who is it that determines this? I understand that the legal ages of 18 and 21 are important, and feel these are mile stones. What happens after you turn 21? Is there an age to look forward to? As children we look forward to various ages and are taught to dread other ages. I recall when a good friend of mine had a crisis about turning 30. She had been taught that reaching this age meant it was down hill from there. After she went through her major breakdown she realized what she had been taught was a load of crap. She is now 45 and happy as ever.

An individual I met at a work function was telling me how she was to old to go back to school (she is 48). I told her that, that seemed weird as there is a 75 year old gentleman going to school with my husband.
Is it true that you are ever to old to go to school?

I was asked to perform a wedding ceremony this weekend for a dear friend of mine. I was completely thrown as it was for a couple who have been together for 32 years, but had decided that now was a good time as their dear friend was on his death bed and this was one of his greatest wishes. Can you believe that they have been together longer than most married people, but because a friend had asked they did it. I must say they certainly didn't have commitment issues or they wouldn't have been together this long. Their reasoning was that they "Hadn't gotten around to it." They said their "I do's" in a hospital room with their friend. Is it true that you are ever to old to get married?

My children keep telling me that they can not wait to be 10, 13, 16, 18 or big enough to ride all the rides (despite the fact that neither one of them will ride anything that goes up & down or in a circle). Are they expecting great things to happen once they reach the age or big enough? Absolutely, however they are learning that right now is enough also.

So my question to you is, is it ever to late to begin fulfilling a dream, a wish or a desire or look forward to turning 40, 43, 47, 55, 68, 72, 88 or 90?

Nope, Never.

Surrender & Trust

Guidance: Miracle, Retreat, Pray

Grief

For many years I worked with individuals that in best case scenarios would pass on with ease. When the individual did pass on families, friends and acquaintances would  allow themselves a week maybe a month to feel the loss. However, if another family member or friend grieved longer than the allotted "week or month"  he/she would be criticize and told hurtful things like "get over it". I can not tell you how often the spouse/son/daughter would come into my office and say "It's been a year, how come I still hurt or feel so sad, I should be over this." My answer was and still is "Grief, does not have a time frame." The key to grief is to allow yourself to fell it when it appears. The more you stuff it, ignore or avoid, the stronger it will become, which will eventually turn it into anger and hate. There is absolutely nothing wrong with shedding tears. It is a necessary release, your body requires this on regular bases (this does include men). The sooner you allow yourself to feel "Grief" the sooner you will heal. I am not saying to wallow in "grief" either, I am saying to acknowledge, release, heal. Repeat process as necessary. My Mother-in-Law passed away 13 years ago February 14. The loss is still there, I miss her terribly, however it doesn't hurt as much now. I put my kitten to sleep yesterday, I am giving myself permission to feel the loss, sadness, and hurt that accompanies this. I will cry randomly for the next few weeks & I will miss him sorely. I will know I have begun healing when I can think of him, acknowledge the hurt and remember the funny things that he did which in turn will replace the hurt with love. When this happens I know my grieving is coming to an end.

As I stated before "Grief does not have a time frame." It is a process, if you do not allow yourself to go through the process it will never end. I recommend not pushing it or stuffing it. Acknowledge it, yes it hurts like hell, this is part of the healing.

Surrender & Trust

Guidance: Retreat, Signs from above & Look Deeper